Are you limited by your thoughts?

Check out this short video.  I discuss limiting beliefs and how it can keep you from succeeding in your life.

After watching the video, take time to figure out what limiting beliefs you have put on yourself.  Once you figure them out, write a new script for each limiting belief.  Then start saying those new scripts every day so you can erase those limiting beliefs.  Once you reprogram your beliefs,  success will head your way!

 

Don’t Criticize or Condemn

 

Today I would like to talk about Chapter 1 in the book “How to win friends and influence people.”

The theme of the chapter is Don’t criticize or condemn other people.

Let’s take a look at how you train a dog.  Do we train a dog by punishing it for bad behaviors?  No.  When you want to train a dog, they will learn faster if your reward good behaviors.

The same is true for people.  We need to praise or admire someone when they do good, not criticize them when they do bad.  You see criticism is like homing pigeons, they always return home.  When you criticize people, those criticisms always find a way to come back around and bite you.  Would you rather have praise and admiration come back around to you, or criticisms?

When you criticize someone, you hurt their pride, their sense of importance, and you may even cause resentment between you and them.  This criticism might put them on the defensive and make them justify or explain the reason behind their behavior.  Everyone can rationalize their behavior, but that doesn’t make that behavior right or wrong.  To them their behavior might be right, and to you it might be wrong.  In the end, who is right?

Hans Selye said, “As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation.  Let’s remember not to criticize or condemn anyone, and instead let’s look inward and see what we can do to better ourselves. Maybe we are the ones that are wrong, and when we fix ourselves then everything will work out.  The Bible says, “How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye.”

Remember the analogy of the dog.  They love praise, not punishment.  So always praise or edify someone and not condemn or criticize.  If you find yourself wanting to criticize, first look inside yourself, and I’m sure the situation will somehow work itself out.

 

Fast is Fun, Slow Stinks

When you build a business, do you want to build Fast or Slow?

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We have a saying in our company, “ Fast is fun, Slow stinks!”  This means that if you are building your teams slowly, then life stinks.  You will get bored with your business.  You might even start to question if this is really what you should be doing.  However, if you are building your teams fast, then you don’t have time to think about anything but how much fun you are having and how awesome this business has been for you.  Life is FUN!

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How to Win Friends & Influence People

howtowinfriendsI am currently reading the book, ‘How to win friends and influence people.’  I am only a third of the way though it, but I am loving this book.  I can’t believe it has taken me this long to read it. I love it because the steps are so practical that a few simple changes can make a huge change in every aspect of your life.

The book gets broken down in to 4 different parts, and each part breaks down in to steps you need to follow to achieve the topic.

Part 1 – Fundamental Techniques in Handling People.

Part 2 – Six ways to make people like you.

Part 3 – How to win people to your way of thinking.

Part 4 – Be a Leader: How to change people without giving offense or arousing resentment.

If you have not read this book, I highly recommend it.  If you haven’t read it is awhile, you should consider reading it again.  I’m sure it will help you out in your career and also every aspect of your life.